Top Ten Tweets
Live Tweeting during Married at First Sight is a culture all unto itself.
Here are my top ten (or eleven) for this week.
Do you live tweet during Married at First Sight? Follow me and Tweet to get yours in my Top Ten!
Due to the unique challenges involved on the production side of Married at First Sight, (MAFS) geographical proximity takes on a critical role. Potential participants must live and work within a reasonable geographic area, both in order to execute the rigors of filming and production, as well as the obvious strict requirement that couples must be able to meld their lives and maintain their jobs. These are real people with real lives and livelihoods.
When distance appears like it may be an issue, we clarify what the needs, preference and deal-breakers are for the particular participants in question. We take care to distinguish between needs, versus preferences, versus deal-breakers. We then factor the information we gather, into our recommendations for matches.
We always respect deal breakers, or explore them in more depth, in cases where we feel they might have some measure of flexibility. Depending on how all the information gathered informs potential matches, we may take some degree of liberty when it comes to needs and preferences, if we feel the overall data is compelling enough to support it.
Matches or elements of matches are never, ever intentionally made to "create drama". Aside from the obvious glaring lack of integrity and horrendous violation of decency, respect and consideration of these individuals it would entail to do so, it's important to remember that everyone involved with Married at First Sight has their own investment in the success of these marriages.
We experts, first and foremost, all agreed to this because we felt it was innovative, compelling and provides an opportunity to do something special. It provides value not only for the participants, but for the viewers. I think we have proven that this is, indeed, possible. We have not only touched the lives of participants in many positive ways, but we've also been able to provide something of value to the viewers.
The other two relevant players here are the network and the production company. Married at First Sight (MAFS) is ultimately, a television production. As such, things like ratings and the message or "brand" of the show, matters.
It is not about drama, sensationalism or exploitation.
MAFS, at it's core, is about love, relationships, believing in love, finding ways to make love better and more fulfilling, authenticity and hopefully, "Happy Endings". That is the "brand" of MAFS. Both the network and production company, as well as we experts, are ALL invested (for our own reasons) in doing everything we can to help support the possibility that love will triumph in the end, and that we will create marriages that will be happy, healthy, fulfilling and enduring.
For the experts, we do our very very best to make matches that we feel have the highest level of potential compatibility and greatest chance for enduring success. We also provide support to our couples to whatever degree we can, that we deem most appropriate.
The production company tries their best to make the practical elements of filming as tolerable as possible, and to interfere as little as possible with their lives and relationships. This is a tough task, but I know for a fact that they really try their best to do this. Successful matches and happy, enduring matches translate into success for the show and better ratings.
So again, everyone involved really shares the same agenda for their own reasons. We all want our couples to succeed and we all do what we can to try to support that end.
Davina was very clear that living in Manhattan was a deal breaker for her. For Davina, this had several facets. One was simply practical. She had recently purchased (and was in the process of renovating) an apartment. She was also in the middle of selling her previous apartment. Davina is very successful in her career, which is based in Manhattan. The other facet was more emotional. Davina absolutely loves living in Manhattan. The city itself, is very integrated into many aspects of her day-to-day life, general lifestyle and network of friends who really symbolize more of a familial role for her.
When it began to become clear that Sean and Davina were a potential match, we clarified this issue with Sean. He made it clear that he was open to the possibility of relocating, and even mentioned being open to the possibility of changing his job, if for the right relationship.
The distance issue was more challenging with Ryan R. and Jaclyn. Ryan did express a deal breaker around leaving New York in general, but was open to moving away from his home town, as long as it wasn't outside of New York. Ultimately, we felt that there were so many compelling points of potential compatibility and complementarity for Ryan and Jaclyn. The match seemed so strong, we were comfortable with the challenges that a greater distance might present for them. And again, no deal breakers were violated in making that match.
Finally, it's important to keep in mind that there will always be positives and negatives that need to be reconciled in these matches. We cannot give everyone everything they need, prefer and desire. There must always be a balance of weighing out pros and cons. Navigating this balance poses one of the most challenging elements of making these matches.