Saturday, August 5, 2017

Married at First Sight ~ Reunited and It Feels So Good

The Married at First Sight Season 5 Reunion special on Lifetime had fans standing up and cheering. In a history making season, all three couples remained married beyond the initial eight week documentation period. 

Nate and Sheila

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Nate and Sheila are adjusting to married life and learning how to communicate with each other. Sounds like a normal marriage to me. The biggest challenge they have is learning how to fight fair. Also sounds normal to me. Let's talk about that for a moment.

It's okay to be angry with your partner. Yes, I said it. Anger is a completely normal feeling in any relationship. As long as you don't push buttons, go after vulnerabilities or show disrespect, disagreements can be a positive way to hone compromising skills. Let's talk some more.

It's much easier to resolve conflict when you're not in the heat of the moment. That's where a cooling off period comes in. If Nate and Sheila can come to a mutually agreeable time and place to talk, listen to each other with an open heart, and continue to forgive one another, there isn't anything they can't overcome. They've totally got this. 

Sheila's drop mic BOOM moment last night...

"The biggest lesson for us is, in relationships winning, if it damages the marriage or damages the bond, nobody wins. So we want the marriage to win, even if our egos don't." ~ Sheila Duhon

Cody and Danielle

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When Cody and Danielle said they were in it for the long haul, they were serious. What a great example they are of giving it all to their marriage.

Cody has qualities that make a great husband. He's kind, caring, considerate, helpful, and trustworthy. So what more could a woman want? It's called chemistry. Danielle wanted to feel an instant spark with Cody. Yet when she didn't, she didn't give up. She committed to giving it time beyond the eight week documentation period to see if love could grow. 

Cody was instantly attracted to Danielle for her beauty and fun-loving personality. The lack of physical intimacy was definitely a challenge for Cody, but this isn't dating. This is marriage. He's committed to building a bond with Danielle that will hopefully move beyond the friend zone. Not many guys would be that patient, so kudos to Cody. 

Cody and Danielle seem very comfortable with each other, but it's going to take work to build a foundation of love. Work that they both seem willing to do. 

Cody regarding the MAFS experience... 

"I would do it again. I understand marriage better. I understand friendship and work relationships better. Overall, it just makes you a better person for everything." ~Cody Knapek

Anthony and Ashley

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It was clear early on that Anthony and Ashley were happy and in love. They eased into married life like an old comfortable shoe. If there were any pebbles that caused them discomfort from time to time, it was the difference in Anthony's laid-back and easy going personality vs. Ashley's more concrete sequential, organized one. 

The experts matched them because of their similarities as well as their differences. Anthony, who is a pleaser, needs to make sure his voice is heard and he isn't the one always giving in to avoid conflict. 

As long as they can compromise on important issues and don't sweat the small stuff, like who is waiting for whom, they can have a long and happy life. Trust me on this. I am Ashley and my husband is Anthony...and we've been married for 38 years. 

Anthony about his journey...

"With this experience, I'm walking away with a new sense of self. I have more purpose than what I had before in life. That purpose is to be a good husband and eventually, to be a good father." ~Anthony D'Amico


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