Tuesday, January 16, 2018

Married at First Sight ~ Is It Honeymoon Bliss?

The Married at First Sight weddings are over and it's on to honeymoon bliss...or is it?

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Ryan and Jackie are definitely in the blissful stage. In the first few hours and days of their marriage, their physical and emotional connection is so real, it's hard to believe they just met. 

Their families also jelled like they've known each other for years. Seeing their children so happy at the wedding and brunch brought relief and joy to both sets of parents, but especially Jackie's after watching their daughter endure such a devastating loss. 

So far, Ryan is saying and doing everything perfectly. So perfectly, that it leaves room to wonder if he's sincere. Even Jackie is questioning if he's for real. 

Ryan is clearly operating from cloud nine, but it's inevitable that at some point, the Cinderella heel is going to drop down to planet Earth. We've seen them in good times...how will they respond to conflict? Will it happen next week when he finds out about Jackie's previous loss?

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I love the camaraderie between Jonathan and Molly. Their light and playful banter puts them at ease so they can move into the comfort zone. We saw that comfort in their pillow talk. Molly asked some great questions and the sincerity of Jonathan's answers gave the perfect balance of his serious and fun side. 

However, it's clear that they are moving at very different paces. The physical connection Jonathan has with Molly is what he needs to become intimate. Molly needs to develop an emotional connection, as well as physical. Will Jonathan remain patient and put his focus on developing that emotional connection? Can Molly put her reservations aside and let him in?

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Slowpitch and stranger and wife, oh my. Jephte and Shawniece are at polar opposite ends of marrying a stranger.

Shawniece can't help but show excitement for her fine-looking husband. This is her dream come true and she is all in. But her open, honest and exuberant personality is paralyzing the man she married. 

Jephte is so overwhelmed with marrying a stranger, he's pretty much shut down and stiff-arming every attempt Shawniece is making at building a connection with him. 

My question is, if Jephte is so uncomfortable with "strangers", why in the world did he apply for and agree to marry one? It's clear he didn't have a clue what he was in for and is way out of his league here.

It looks like continued rough times are ahead. Will the experts be able to help them find that middle ground in order to build a relationship in just a few short weeks?

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Moving on, one of the great things about Married at First Sight is the expert advice that can be applied to relationships. Here are a few golden nuggets:

"It's okay to have fear. It''s okay to want to take things slow, but you take them slow together. You don't take them slow apart." ~ Pastor Calvin Roberson 
"Having some empathy for her (or his) position, may help. Being able to acknowledge how she (or he) is feeling, but then state what you need." ~ Dr. Jessica Griffin 
"If you're ready to be married, you have to be willing to change. You know from personal experience that if I'm going to join my life to another person, I cannot remain a single entity." ~ Pastor Calvin Roberson
"Marriage...it's a series of ups and downs." ~ Dr. Pepper Schwartz 
"It's how you handle the difficult times in a marriage, not the good times." ~ Dr. Jessica Griffin
"You grow in love, you don't fall in it. If you focus on those positives, the chemistry will come. You can create the chemistry." ~ Pastor Calvin Roberson

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Let's close with another great change this season. For the first time, all three couples were sent to the same location to give one another support in this unique and challenging social experiment.

MAFS couples honeymooned at Palace Resort's newest luxury all-inclusive property, Moon Palace Jamaica, a AAA four-diamond awarded hotel in Ocho Rios, Jamaica. 

This tropical paradise was the perfect backdrop to set the tone for love to grow. I can't wait to see what happens! Until next week...


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Tuesday, January 9, 2018

Married at First Sight ~ Chemistry Is Great But Real Beauty Lies Much Deeper

I LOVE the Married at First Sight weddings! This season had major good vibes with all three couples having instant physical chemistry. Of course, chemistry isn't everything, but it sure does help if you are attracted to the stranger you marry!

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While all three couples had physical attraction, Jackie and Ryan were the most comfortable couple. Ryan's charisma put Jackie at ease right from their introduction at the altar. Throughout the wedding and reception, he continued to compliment Jackie and express how happy he was.

It's clear that Ryan's love language is words of affirmation and physical touch. Jackie will NEVER have to wonder what he is thinking or feeling. But as Dr. Jessica Griffin pointed out in "Married at First Sight Unfiltered", can he tone it down a notch when needed? 

Words of affirmation may be what Ryan needs to hear, but how does Jackie give and receive love? With a less exuberant personality, will she be able to express herself in the way that Ryan needs? And finally, the BIG question on everyone's mind, can she set aside the ghosts of her past to truly find happiness again?

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The saying, "opposites attract" is certainly true with Jephte and Shawniece. He is quiet and reserved, she is bubbling with a fervor for life. He is cautious, she throws caution to the wind. He is slow to trust, she is all in. They are clearly attracted to one another, but there's another important saying to consider..."beauty is only skin deep". 

To fall in love, you need a clear understanding of who your spouse is on the inside. It's also important to have a level of respect for your differences. It's a fine dance of give and take that requires time to perfect. Pushing an introvert too far out of their comfort zone will shut them down. Completely withdrawing from an extrovert will destroy their trust. 

With guidance from the experts, I think Jephte and Shawniece can develop a foundation that will go the distance. But it's going to take patience and a willingness to compromise. Will they BOTH commit to giving it their all? 

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The smiles on Jonathan and Molly's faces the ENTIRE wedding day said it all. Their light-hearted and easy banter was infectious. It took the awkward out of marrying a stranger and replaced it with fun. Friends and family breathed a sigh of relief, as we saw their fears literally melt away. 

Humor is an important part of a healthy relationship. If you can laugh with each other during both the good times and bad, it can ease some of the burdens we face in life. The important thing to remember is that we don't use humor as a shield to protect our hearts. 

The divorce of Jonathan's parents and the loss of Molly's father is certain to have built a brick or two around their grieving hearts. In order to start building a foundation of trust, they need to break away any barriers and get beneath the surface.That's a tall order for any couple just beginning their relationship. Is it possible to do it in 8 short weeks? 

Each season, just when you think it can't get any better, production company Kinetic Content steps it up another notch. Last week the men and women got to meet each other BEFORE the weddings. Tonight we got to see a UNIQUE behind the scenes look from the experts on "Married at First Sight Unfiltered", hosted by Jamie Otis of Season 1. I LOVE these changes.

Now if they could work on easing up a bit on those cliffhangers...


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Wednesday, January 3, 2018

Married at First Sight ~ Boston Marriage Marathon

In Season 6 of Lifetime's Married at First Sight, 50,000 singles from the Boston area applied for the radical social experiment, with the ultimate goal of marrying a stranger. These singles put complete trust in a panel of show experts that use science and research to match them with their potential soulmate. 

Here is a first look at the six singles chosen to marry a stranger. 

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Jaclyn Schwartzberg, a 29 year old sales representative, has suffered the life-changing tragedy of losing a mate. Knowing what a healthy relationship is, she's willing to risk it all to have a second chance at love.

As a fire fighter, construction worker and landlord, 29 year old Ryan Buckley has proven he has a great work ethic. Now he's ready to share his success with someone he can call his best friend. He's excited to find his soulmate and start a family. 

Ryan is very nurturing and is ready to spoil his wife. His willingness to put his spouse first is a great foundation for marriage. Jaclyn is ready to be the recipient of a little nurturing! These two seem perfect for each other, but will they have a physical connection?

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At 28, Jonathan Francetic is very adventurous and athletic. He feels serving his country in Iraq made him into the man he is today. Unfortunately, his company wasn't supportive of his decision to marry a stranger and he had to give up his job in finance.

Molly Duff, age 25, has also known hardship. Losing her dad and home at 18 was difficult, but it ultimately brought her family even closer together. Although Molly has a stable job as a commercial insurance adjuster, starting off their marriage with Jon being unemployed is certain to put a burden on their new relationship. 

Will Molly's resiliency give her the empathy and compassion needed to support for her stranger husband? Will Jon be able to find a job upon returning from their honeymoon?

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As the oldest daughter of 13 siblings, Shawniece Jackson always thought she would be married long before age 29. She's worked hard to build a successful cosmetology and wig business and is looking for a mate that is equally hard-working.

Jepthe Pierre is a 26 year old elementary school teacher that is also the oldest of many siblings. He has served as a father figure and understands what commitment and sacrifice are. 

Jepthe's mother is very important in his life, but she is not happy with his decision to marry at first sight. Will her lack of support cause angst in their marriage? 

As I watched the wedding prep, my stomach was tied in knots like I was the one marrying a complete stranger. For the next several months, I'll be living vicariously through them. Such is the life of an empath. 


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Monday, August 14, 2017

The Spouse House ~ Just Do It or Don't Even Think About It?

In The Spouse House this week, some relationships are starting to take off, some are beginning to unravel and others vacillate between the two. Just when viewers think they know what's going to happen, they get thrown a curve ball.  Here are this week's do's and don'ts... 

Don't Even Think About...

Asking her father for her hand in marriage and 
getting cold feet when she says she loves you. Ouch.

Coming to the #SpouseHouse to get married 
and freaking out when you're asked to be in 
a monogamous relationship. Confusing. 

Flirting with men who are already in 
exploratory marriages with other women. Gutsy.

Alternating between ride or die...every other minute. Exhausting. 

Letting another women get touchy-feely with you 
and then calling HER out for being standoffish. Defensive.

Crying when he walks out in the middle of 
disagreement...once again. Disheartening.

Thinking there is hope with a girl you first 
ghosted and then openly rejected. Disillusioned.

Just Do It!!!

Leaving the Spouse House in love and committed, 
knowing your relationship is just starting. Ecstatic!!!

Opening up your heart by telling him you love him. Blissful. 

Taking a leap of faith with someone 
you've know for literally a day. Brave. 

Hoping that wooing will grow the 
good vibes exponentially. Persevering.

Taking the high road and admitting you 
messed up big time by acting out of fear. Gallant.

Putting a smile on someone's face...
no matter whose idea it was. Thoughtful. 

Trying to talk someone down from the ledge. Responsible. 

Shocking the whole WORLD by 
getting down on a knee and proposing 
BEFORE the engagement ceremony. The MAN!!!


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The Spouse House ~
Make or Break Moments

Monday, August 7, 2017

The Spouse House ~ Make or Break Shocking Moments

There were some shocking moments this week in The Spouse House by participants and experts alike. Things are changing so quickly, it's hard to grasp it all.  

First, can we take a moment to acknowledge the 
cuteness of Danny and Naya in their matchy patchy shirts? 
This is what you call wedded bliss, folks!!!

Okay...let the jaw-dropping begin.

The first curveball...we ALL thought Bri 
was going to propose to Chris. Instead she makes
shocking decision to leave the #SpouseHouse.

The new kids on the block are in utter dismay that they're 
still 'single' and 'hanging tough' as they walk 'step by 
step' out of the door 'tonight'. See what I did there?

Tom to Ashley Lauren, "I am very sorry that Ben left. And the 
fact that you don't think I'm hurt by that is very disappointing." 
Me: Wait...what??? Wasn't it Tom that just voted Ben out? 

 In an unexpected turn of events, the experts reveal they are in 
charge of the relationships. They put you into an exploratory 
marriage and they can take you right back out. Okay...I get it. 

Well look at that! Darren is making all the right moves, both 
on and off the field, with Isabella. Will the third time be the charm?

We interrupt this regularly scheduled recap for the #JimmyJo show.

  Wow. Did we really just fall in love in two weeks? 

Why yes, we did! Stoked to meet the fam...
because firefighter's bro code. 

'It's just like The Notebook!' and 'Marry him now, Jo!'
Fake crying and incessant teasing...Priceless! 

Leaving the hometown date smiling and 
smelling like a rose...oh wait, wrong show.

 Enough of the good feels. Back to gut-wrenching drama. 

Ashley thinking marriage should be nothing but bliss has a rude
awakening if she ever gets there. It's hard work...every single day. 

Ashley Lauren making a bold move to reclaim her man.
I'm not gonna lie, it was super hard to see them with other 
potential mates. But GUYS...I'm so nervous about whether
they can stick it out and learn to work through their ups and downs.

I see love growing between Chris and Missy, despite the odds...and 
everyone else...against them. I wish they could have an easier path.

Whether to vaccinate or not is a tough conversation to 
have. But it's a critical one that reveals Chris and Missy are on
 polar opposite ends of the spectrum. This may be a deal-breaker.

The final bombshell moment of the night...Missy 
tells Chris she wants to leave the house. My heart is 
breaking. Everyone deserves to feel love, Missy! Will Chris 
propose, leave with her or stay at the house? Dun...Dun...Dun...

I don't know about you, but I won't sleep a WINK until next week. 


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Saturday, August 5, 2017

Married at First Sight ~ Reunited and It Feels So Good

The Married at First Sight Season 5 Reunion special on Lifetime had fans standing up and cheering. In a history making season, all three couples remained married beyond the initial eight week documentation period. 

Nate and Sheila

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Nate and Sheila are adjusting to married life and learning how to communicate with each other. Sounds like a normal marriage to me. The biggest challenge they have is learning how to fight fair. Also sounds normal to me. Let's talk about that for a moment.

It's okay to be angry with your partner. Yes, I said it. Anger is a completely normal feeling in any relationship. As long as you don't push buttons, go after vulnerabilities or show disrespect, disagreements can be a positive way to hone compromising skills. Let's talk some more.

It's much easier to resolve conflict when you're not in the heat of the moment. That's where a cooling off period comes in. If Nate and Sheila can come to a mutually agreeable time and place to talk, listen to each other with an open heart, and continue to forgive one another, there isn't anything they can't overcome. They've totally got this. 

Sheila's drop mic BOOM moment last night...

"The biggest lesson for us is, in relationships winning, if it damages the marriage or damages the bond, nobody wins. So we want the marriage to win, even if our egos don't." ~ Sheila Duhon

Cody and Danielle

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When Cody and Danielle said they were in it for the long haul, they were serious. What a great example they are of giving it all to their marriage.

Cody has qualities that make a great husband. He's kind, caring, considerate, helpful, and trustworthy. So what more could a woman want? It's called chemistry. Danielle wanted to feel an instant spark with Cody. Yet when she didn't, she didn't give up. She committed to giving it time beyond the eight week documentation period to see if love could grow. 

Cody was instantly attracted to Danielle for her beauty and fun-loving personality. The lack of physical intimacy was definitely a challenge for Cody, but this isn't dating. This is marriage. He's committed to building a bond with Danielle that will hopefully move beyond the friend zone. Not many guys would be that patient, so kudos to Cody. 

Cody and Danielle seem very comfortable with each other, but it's going to take work to build a foundation of love. Work that they both seem willing to do. 

Cody regarding the MAFS experience... 

"I would do it again. I understand marriage better. I understand friendship and work relationships better. Overall, it just makes you a better person for everything." ~Cody Knapek

Anthony and Ashley

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It was clear early on that Anthony and Ashley were happy and in love. They eased into married life like an old comfortable shoe. If there were any pebbles that caused them discomfort from time to time, it was the difference in Anthony's laid-back and easy going personality vs. Ashley's more concrete sequential, organized one. 

The experts matched them because of their similarities as well as their differences. Anthony, who is a pleaser, needs to make sure his voice is heard and he isn't the one always giving in to avoid conflict. 

As long as they can compromise on important issues and don't sweat the small stuff, like who is waiting for whom, they can have a long and happy life. Trust me on this. I am Ashley and my husband is Anthony...and we've been married for 38 years. 

Anthony about his journey...

"With this experience, I'm walking away with a new sense of self. I have more purpose than what I had before in life. That purpose is to be a good husband and eventually, to be a good father." ~Anthony D'Amico


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